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( In which our heroine whines )
It is truly astonishing that the Great Fail of '09 is still going on. I haven't said anything for a variety of reasons (I'm a clueless white girl; I don't personally know anybody so I'd be just another voice going "me too"; I'm just damn well embarrassed on the part of the SFF establishment at this point; yadda). But, seriously. So, a bullety of links and things that I would think would be so obvious as to be utterly non-controversial:
1. Outing people is bad.
2. Pseudonymous != anonymous (REALLY. When pseudonyms are stable and long-lasting and serve as a person's unique identifier in a community, and when community standards demand that a person take responsibility for things said and done under that pseudonym, that is not anonymity by any reasonable definition)
3. Before this became the Great Outing Soap Opera, let's not forget that there sure was a lot of fail on the race and cultural appropriation front.![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
deepad's Reappropriating my man remains my favorite post from this phase of the Fail.
4. Elizabeth Bear's behavior (especially this post) is like a master class in How To Fuck Up An Apology. (Wait, you apologized because you wanted to seem non-racist, rather than actually being one, but if anyone implies that you were actually in the wrong rather than showering you with cookies, screw them? And it seemed like a good idea to you to admit this on your lj?)
5.cofax7's post On the Sudden Onset of Pantslessness is probably the post I most needed to read here. By which I mean it's the one that made me feel the urge to get defensive, which, in discussions like this, is a pretty good sign that you (meaning me) need to think hard. I link to it in that spirit.
6. That said, after watching all this unfold, I will never again say "I just don't have an embarrassment squick."
It is truly astonishing that the Great Fail of '09 is still going on. I haven't said anything for a variety of reasons (I'm a clueless white girl; I don't personally know anybody so I'd be just another voice going "me too"; I'm just damn well embarrassed on the part of the SFF establishment at this point; yadda). But, seriously. So, a bullety of links and things that I would think would be so obvious as to be utterly non-controversial:
1. Outing people is bad.
2. Pseudonymous != anonymous (REALLY. When pseudonyms are stable and long-lasting and serve as a person's unique identifier in a community, and when community standards demand that a person take responsibility for things said and done under that pseudonym, that is not anonymity by any reasonable definition)
3. Before this became the Great Outing Soap Opera, let's not forget that there sure was a lot of fail on the race and cultural appropriation front.
deepad's Reappropriating my man remains my favorite post from this phase of the Fail.4. Elizabeth Bear's behavior (especially this post) is like a master class in How To Fuck Up An Apology. (Wait, you apologized because you wanted to seem non-racist, rather than actually being one, but if anyone implies that you were actually in the wrong rather than showering you with cookies, screw them? And it seemed like a good idea to you to admit this on your lj?)
5.
cofax7's post On the Sudden Onset of Pantslessness is probably the post I most needed to read here. By which I mean it's the one that made me feel the urge to get defensive, which, in discussions like this, is a pretty good sign that you (meaning me) need to think hard. I link to it in that spirit. 6. That said, after watching all this unfold, I will never again say "I just don't have an embarrassment squick."